How to be more loving and happy and at peace?
Be more present. To what is real.
How to be present? Quiet down the thinking, the mind, without introducing the doer.
Don’t try and stop thinking.
Just observe benevolently (with curiosity if it’s there).
The doer can’t squelch (forcefully silence or suppress) the doer – the doer that is trying to quiet the mind. That’s the bad news.
“To ask the mind to kill itself is like making the thief the policeman. He will go with you and pretend to catch the thief, but nothing will be gained. So you must turn inward and see where the mind rises from, and then it will cease to exist.” ~ Ramana Maharshi
You don’t have to try and stop all thinking – that is a misunderstanding of spiritual or meditation or non-dual teachings.
There is practical thinking that’s needed, in the moment, that is quiet and clear. But it has no emotional charge.
There is celebratory thinking, that is fun, happy, joyous, loving, interested – in hobbies, friends, arts, nature, intellectual pursuits…
There is thinking that is about the Truth, Consciousness, that eventually becomes celebratory.
The only problematic thinking is the psychological thinking. That is the ‘dis-ease”. It’s root is the sense of a separate self, the feeling or thinking of a fake me. It’s about a person, an “I” sound that has no real substantial independent existence except through effort, maintained by or in fear. When that evaporates the real I Am is there.
The good news is you already have silent mind. It’s what you are. Right now you may be covering it with thinking.
There is a background, always there, always observing, knowing, loving, being. Always happy, present. Knowing all, loving all. Because it *is* love.